My parents do not support me on the mission and purpose and hence do not meet me at the level of authenticity, self-direction that I require.
Distinctive needs I need to separate:
What needs CANNOT be met:
- validation of my identity
- emotional safety for my authentic self
- encouragement for my path
- mutual understanding
What needs CAN be met:
- basic civility
- limited contact
- practical cooperation
- logistical connection
How to move forward
- Stop seeking permission
Instead of "Will they approve?" Think, "Is this aligned with who I am becoming?"
Approval for growth is no longer necessary
- Reduce expectations
Share less, Explain less, Defend nothing, Redirect conversations
Full access is only for people who value it
- Create chosen reinforcement
Partner, gym bros, friends, work mates
Build environments that reinforce, not undermine
- Reframe what filial means
Not about obedience, self-erasure, quiet resentfulness
Its about stability, independence, respect without submission, distance