Few days ago I guess the lack of sex triggered Kenneth to explode in his desperation for not having sex in this relationship after I mentioned that I have been masturbating alot while alone. This was after us having a Australia road trip for 10 days together not having done anything sexual together. It was tough because on a roadtrip its constantly on the move, I get tired and the logistics of locations may not be suitable so I was not so in the mood but I guess that was a big trigger for Kenneth already and then we returned to Singapore he was already showing signs of neglect. After the big explostion, we subsequently had a chat the next evening and started to question the continuity of the relationship. Have I been an opportunity cost? I think the thought of breaking up has been on the horizon and its starting to weigh down on Kenneth.
To me, romance is not about the sex but the emotional love for each other, being by each other and caring for one another. To Kenneth, this simply feels like best friends spending time together and the lack of sex is the differentiation of a friend from a lover. However, for me, love is more about an emotional one and sex is optional as I see sex as more of a urge to get done and rid away once in awhile when we have hookups with others. Perhaps my mentality of sex needs to change and more intimacy needs to be given to Kenneth.